Emotional Intelligence

 What is emotional intelligence?

The ability to manage your emotions to your advantage and that of others. Yes, theres such a thing as managing other peoples emotions and your emotional reactions. With this study, it is safe to say that it is possible not to continue being a short tempered person, excessively jealous, angry, etc. Because you learn more about yourself and the triggers that produce negative emotions in you and that of others.

Theres a Room For Change

If you grew with folks who are easily given to anger, chances are, you might end up becoming the same way, because your mind and body adapts to it and sees it to be the norm of daily living. While this is true for some people others turn quite the opposite. They are not hot headed but calmer, having learned the fear and the discomfort that it brings.

As humans, what we have no control over is change and time but with the with right information, we may learn to invoke the latter and make proper use of the former. I am not promising that you will get it right at first try. Infact, there is a high chance that you may flop it at first try but with continous practice, may manifest emotional intelligence like you drive your car or operate your andriod/IOS, effortlessly.

Have a positive mindset

No matter the environment you grew up, be it an estate or a ghetto, as long as you have a brain you can definitely be emotionally intelligent. Theres a saying, discovering what the problem is the first and important to solving it. Why do we say this? Emotions come in a matter of milliseconds and before you know it, you are awash with it, be it negative or positive, but you must know, every emotion has a root.

Jealousy, for example, often denied and rarely admitted when we are confronted, is a feeling that comes from deep affection, care and love that is not given attention. We let it get the best of us many times. But if you look closely, you will realize that you act the way you do because theres a particular way you want things to be done or a way that you want to be shown that you are loved too. Understanding why you feel the way you do, will provide a deeper sense of self awareness that will help you control negative emotions.

Take your time to think, to focus on your feelings and emotions and to gain insights on what triggers reactions.

Other Peoples Feelings

In a world where everyone tries to look after themselves and often times become self entitled, it may be very hard to consider the feelings of others. This especially when their reactions are not pleasing to you. This is why I believe that, for you to be emotionally intelligent, you have to be emphatic to an extent.

Considering peoples feelings is about not making conclusions on present behaviour but believing on or finding our the root cause for reactions. You may do this by close observation or by asking them what is the cause of their reaction. Helping to understand and define peoples emotions, and knowing your own emotions will create a very platform for communication and interaction between you and your peers.

So, take your time to learn about yourself and the other people.